As someone rightly said, life is better without baggage. But baggage, what is baggage. It is as big as we make it to be. I genuinely believe that as humans, we are constantly evolving and if someone tells me that people don't change, I get very disappointed. And furthermore, if someone says, people can change in the short term but not in the long term.
The funny thing about life & expectations is that it is always, constantly changing and evolving. Yes, we can really irk someone with our behavior, we can really fight for attention, but the question is who do we do these to? The people we deeply care about, the people we likely are very fond of, to say the least. Do we get upset if a friend doesn't answer our call when we really want to speak to them? Not necessarily. The same is also true for a loved one but sometimes, we just want to see the person, just hear their voice - even if for a brief second. And technology has made it possible to do so. But sometimes, the other person is not in the mood to. And our response can clash with their response. End result - two people who just want some time with one another, are hurting from their respective reactions. Fair feelings, given the circumstances. But, is it fair to draw a line and a conclusion that the person is high maintenance and is not worth the effort? I mean, really?
Well, this is how life works. We spend an eternity trying to protect ourselves from this hurt. Trying to avoid admitting just how much we like the other person because we think this will be the inevitable end. And yet, just as we attempt to give life a chance - this is what happens. Judgement & rejection. It can be hard. It can be very hard. & more so, if it happens twice with the same person, almost half a decade apart. And you think to yourself, he dint want me then, what made me think he wants me now! Yet, the feelings of affection & love can bring out the vulnerable us. & vulnerability doesn't always have a place because it is when you are displaying your weakest side & often people can't handle it. & people often draw the conclusion that this is who you are. If only they knew, if only they could see.
No point crying over spilled milk, if only our tears understood that! But, life like I said is too beautiful to not live each day to the fullest.
& in the words of Francis Thompson -
"She went her unremembering way,
she went & left in me
The pang of al the partings gone,
And partings yet to be."
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